Yeah that guy is no "expert"... The KJ has a purely mechanical transfer case, it doesnt turn on and off as needed, if the lever is in 4HI then its in and thats it, well until something goes wrong or you shift it out.
And to echo what others have already said... Part Time means just that, you turn it on only when needed, and it should only be used when on slippery surfaces so that you have wheel spin. On dry pavement you will get binding and breakage, its all go or no go with the Part Time transfer case. Now if you had one with Full Time then its different as the transfer case functions differently, read the posts on here about the difference between the transfer cases used in the KJ.
You don't have to stop to shift the transfer case, its actually best to do it moving when going from 4HI to 2HI. I usually just take my foot off the gas and let it keep coasting and then shift the transfer case and then back to the gas, simple as that. If you experience problems and it won't pop out take your foot off the gas, shift the trans to neutral while letting it coast, then shift transfer case, then shift back to drive and back on the gas.